The results are in!
your overwhelm type is:
The Nurturer/ Overgiver
When you’re in your full power, you’re a natural Nurturer.
When overwhelm strikes, this can tip over into becoming an Overgiver.
Let's Dig Deeper...
The Nurturer -
You’re a natural nurturer, so when things are going well, there’s no one better at showing up and showing love than you. You’re *that* person — the one who always goes the extra mile for a loved one, who remembers the small details, who cares with her whole heart.
You find it fulfilling to be of service, whether it’s to your kids, your community, or the world at large.
Oh, and your superpower is empathy — you’re a champion at feeling all the feels! (In fact, you feel so deeply it hurts sometimes!)
The Overgiver -
When overwhelm hits, it’s like a switch gets flicked and you get stuck in giving mode.
All of a sudden, you’re doing nothing BUT care for other people, with no time or energy to care for yourself.
Eventually — after all that giving — you end up with a completely empty cup, which makes it increasingly hard to keep moving forward day after day.
Continue on this path for long enough and you might even find yourself feeling resentful of other people’s needs... then feeling mega-guilty for feeling this way.
Understanding how to manage this balance between your beautiful nurturing side and your tendency to give until you’ve got nothing left is crucial for breaking your unique overwhelm cycle.
The goal isn’t to deny any of the parts that make you you. Instead, we want to help you find ways to thrive, so that you don’t keep defaulting to the patterns that deplete you and get you stuck in survival mode.
Red Flags for the
Look out for these warnings signs that you’re headed for overwhelm:
You’ve stopped your usual acts of self-care (because you’re so busy caring for other people). Even tiny acts of looking after yourself feel way out of reach.
You get angry and resentful at your partner / kids / etc, who seem to get all their needs met, while no one is paying attention to your needs.
You’re not living your life from a lit-up place. In fact, you might find yourself looking at other people who bounce around and just feel sad… Where did my vitality go?! What are they doing that’s so fun? I’ve forgotten what it’s like to feel that way.
3 Simple steps to stop the slide into overwhelm
Or to climb back out if you're deep in it!
You’re used to nurturing everyone else, so let’s try nurturing you. Ask yourself what you could do today that would feel good to you. Coffee in a cafe? Catching up with a friend? Reading a book? Ten minutes of guilt-free sunbathing in your backyard? Give yourself permission to do it — then make it happen. (You’ve got this, lady.)
Make or order YOUR favourite dinner this week — and everyone else can deal with it! Here, we’re building the skill of advocating for you… and yep, it might feel like a stretch at first!
What’s one thing you can say ‘no’ to right now? Look, I’m not going to blow smoke: the thought of putting your own needs first (and potentially disappointing someone else) might feel super uncomfy. But the relief you’ll feel afterwards will make it *so* worth it.
Be gentle with yourself on this journey. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither was your overwhelm.
But by taking small, simple steps in the right direction, you can make a BIG difference to how you feel day to day.
How does all that feel, lady?
Does it resonate? Does it hit home? Do you feel seen?!
It’s important to remember, our Overwhelm Type isn’t who we are, it’s just the pattern we get stuck in when overwhelm hits.
It’s also not set in stone: there are SO many steps you can take to turn the tables on overwhelm and get back in control — with ease, on your own terms, in your own time.
I’ll be sharing some simple but genius strategies with you in your inbox over the next few weeks, so stay very tuned.
In the meantime, if you’re itching to dive deeper straight away, you can check out the podcast links below.
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The Strategist/ Overanalyser
The Organiser/ Busy Bee
The Nurturer/ Overgiver
The Pillar/ Carrier
The Leader/ Perfectionist
About Lisa Corduff
Hey! I’m Lisa. I’ve spent the past 10 years working with tens of thousands of women to create real and lasting change in their lives using practical mindset strategies (and a stack of inspiration!)
I know what it’s like to have a lot on your plate — I’m a solo mum to three small humans, as well as an entrepreneur and podcaster.
So you can bet that everything I share is stuff that’s simple and doable (no matter what season of life you’re in).
Oh, and also? It freaking works. #thankgoodness