CwL Ep57: Everything Is Fine

Hi, it’s Lisa Corduff. Welcome to the podcast where you can expect inspiring, raw, energising, and transformative conversations with people on the path of personal evolution. I’m here to really live my life, and if you are too, these conversations are just for you. I’m really glad you’re here. Enjoy. I’ve been delivering coaching, trainings, lessons, webinars, you name it, for over seven years online. And today on the podcast, you’re listening to what we’re calling a tiny training, taken from inside the vault, here at LCHQ, and we hope you enjoy it.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve realised that pretty much everything is going on up here. My food choices, who I spend my time with, how I parent, all of that stuff really comes down to how I’m thinking. And one huge thing that I’ve worked on in myself is to find a place of peace in myself. There can be so much going on, there’s so much to worry about, there’s our children and where they’re at, there’s our relationship, there’s our work, there’s what we feel like we’re doing for ourselves and what we’re not doing. I mean, there’s just so much, right?

So the more that we can bring ourselves back to a state of peace, everything feels different. It’s literally a signal for our body to just calm right down. Our hormones love it, how digestion loves it, the people around us love it because we’re actually not acting like crazy people, we’re finding peace in all the little moments of our day, our life just starts to become more peaceful.

So what I wanted to share with you today is something that I found really hard to hear from a mentor of mine. He said once, “Everything always has been, is now, and always will be just fine.” I was like, “Fine?” It was at a time when things in my life certainly didn’t feel fine, they absolutely did not feel fine.

But I sat with it and I thought, “Things are fine or not fine because we make them that way.” Even the toughest times, in fact, I’ve just realised, the toughest times are the times that we learn so much and we grow so much. I think about having three children, three and under for a while and starting a business at that same stage. And I think about them, it certainly didn’t feel fine, that state of chaos, but without that experience in my life… it actually was fine because I was learning so many lessons. I was growing so much as a woman. And I found a fierceness in me that I wouldn’t have known existed had I not gone through those years.

When my kids aren’t feeling good, if they’re feeling anxious or upset about something, I keep thinking in my mind, everything’s fine. They’re going to find a way through this. This is a part of their story. If I make this a really big explosive deal… I mean, absolutely give attention where attention is required. We find solutions and we move through things. It’s all fine. It’s fine through tough times. It’s fine to be lent on a little bit more or for the things not to be this linear kind of process.

So while everything always has been, is now, and always will be fine, life still goes like this. But how different might it be for you, if throughout all of that time, there’s this place inside you that knows that it’s all fine. And I know how confronted I was when I first heard this because I’m like, “F you, it’s not fine. It definitely doesn’t feel fine. What are you trying to say that my situation is fine.”

And it actually was. All leading, in perfect order, to life events that just continue rolling on and everything is working out for me. And it gives me this sense of peace to know that, to look for what’s okay about a certain situation. How is this fine? How is this okay?

I’d love to know what you think if this resonates at all for you, but think about particular parts of your life. Are you labelling them as something terrible when in fact it’s okay? These things are happening and it might feel really hard, it might feel sad, it might feel turbulent, it might feel out of control, but that’s fine. Maybe it needs to be that right now in order to get to the other side. Everything is fine.