CwL Ep56: How To Stop Sabotaging Your Happiness And Success

Hi, it’s Lisa Corduff. Welcome to the podcast where you can expect inspiring, raw, energising, and transformative conversations with people on the path of personal evolution. I’m here to really live my life, and if you are too, these conversations are just for you. I’m really glad you’re here. Enjoy. I’ve been delivering coaching, trainings, lessons, webinars, you name it, for over seven years online. And today on the podcast, you’re listening to what we’re calling a tiny training, taken from inside the vault, here at LCHQ, and we hope you enjoy it.

So many times we sabotage our attempts at happiness, success, we get out of our power because we put it off. We think that there’s always going to be time for things, right? Time for us. Time for us to shine when we can just have that sorted. I mean, I’d have to say this one is personal because there’s nothing like someone close to you dying young to make you reassess the, “I’ve got time,” self-talk.

I mean, we have no idea how much time we’ve got left and yet, everyone else and their needs takes precedence over us. And it doesn’t really make sense because it just doesn’t have to be that way. What I see with so many women is we’ve put off our own happiness and health until the time in which everyone else around us that we love so much, is happy and well. But I really have to ask you, if everything can be gone… What are we waiting for? What are we waiting for as a collective, as women? But as an individual, you put it off. So you can stop sabotaging yourself by putting everyone else first, every single moment of every single day.

Do you really truly know that it’s possible to work on yourself, to rediscover your own values, your own personal power, and create a vision for your life while continuing to parent, be in a partnership, work, do life? That you could actually put yourself on the priority list every single day? That you get to ask yourself, the question that I asked you too before, which is what do you need to feel good today? I mean, the kicker is, this is the crazy thing, because I know there’ll be people who are going, “Not this lady. This is how I showed love, by caring for people.” And I hear you. I mean, I was right there with you. But the kicker for you is that the better that you feel when you work on yourself and your stuff, the better you show up for people around you.

So you can stop with the story that there’s no time for you, or no money for you to buy new underwear. We put off stuff like that. I mean, whoa, six years of pregnancy or breastfeeding nonstop, and it was pretty bad for me to do that. And on one salary, I didn’t have much extra cash. Kept having to clothe children. That was my priority. I wasn’t my own priority. It didn’t matter what my undies looked like. But yeah, it does. Yeah, that five-pack for $10 knickers that I bought changed my life. It really changed how I felt about myself. Then that has a spinoff effect of everyone else feeling good around me.

You don’t have to wait until kids are older, if you’re a parent, before you can… Insert whatever it is that you love to do. No, you don’t have to. The time is actually now and if we want to go there, let me explain this. When it was explained to me it just was like, “What? Oh my God. How have I never seen it like this before?” The future actually doesn’t exist. So whatever is in the future, it doesn’t exist. And the past doesn’t actually exist because all we ever actually have, we only ever exist right now. We only ever exist right now! And then that now is in the past, right? And we’re here. Can you see your power, you being in the driver’s seat relies on you being really present right now. We only ever have this exact present moment.

Life is lived right here and we need to make the most of that. I mean, most of our time, you think about where your thoughts usually exist and where you take yourself. Ruminating on the past, or thinking about what’s going to happen, worrying? This is where your power lies, right here, and that’s where you’ve got all your choices.

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